It's A Game!

Want to know a common phrase heard among those in the legal world?

Here it is: It’s a game!

That’s right - a game. And who wins? The children? No. The faithful spouse? No. The winner is the one who doesn’t run out of money or wear out physically and emotionally. Yep, and this is in America - the land of the free - and despite Judge Mangum’s claims that Venessa Mills’ case is "not a win or lose." A game without a winner or loser? What a joke!

With all the judicial games and attorneys fees it’s easy to understand why so many become worn out by the system and simply give up. This is the very system that is supposed to help our citizens, especially the children, when they need it the most.

However, we find very little truth in our courts. But, hey, since it’s just a game why would that matter? Isn’t that the object of any game - to outwit and wear down your opponent? When a judge can change the rules in the middle of the game it’s no wonder people break down and give up.

This is why we see the injustice of temporary orders, mental health evaluations ordered on good moms, condemnation of friendly postcards, and slander used against innocent people – all to win the game.

Ever wondered why attorneys and judges always seem to deliver bad news or make their moves on a Friday. It's no coincidence. It's part of the game. Hit the “opponent” right before the weekend so they don't have the chance to respond for more than two days.

Venessa Mills’ case is not just a divorce, and it is certainly not an isolated one. We’ve received several emails from other women and men in these same circumstances. In my next post I'll share one of those stories.